The Nacle's Ubër Feminist has spoken: Sex isn’t inherently bad, but it is inherently bad for women. Naturally, she is promptly attacked by...a bunch of men...and then a bunch of women chime in saying she is wrong too, the arguments being based largely on them ignoring what Rosalynde said and what her intent was. Both predictable and ugly. How dare Rosalynde try to inject some intelligent coversation into a indiscreet thread that is the online equivilent of wanking in public. The simple fact that so many commenters choose to remain anonymous should tell you something.
But, the best comment of all is this one, where we are informed:
There is a vast difference in attitudes between women who don’t like sex, for various reasons, and those who do.
- Yeah? No kiddin! You mean, women who like sex have different attitudes about sex than women who don't like sex! Whoa! No way! One likes sex and one doesn't, note the difference!
Women who are asexual have a lot of issues.
- Another earth-shatteringly profound statement. A lot of issues of...what? Or, is this just a cheap personal attack on any "prude" who would have the nerve to point out that the book referenced and the entire FMH thread is a load of rubbish, designed to make proponents of this lascivious trash feel like they are better adjusted and they don't have "issues"?
What is interesting about asexual women is: over 75% of women who report they have never had an orgasm actual orgasm regularly and just do not connect with their bodies enough to feel it.
- How exactly did this 75% number come about? Pull it out of your bum? How did these "researchers" determine that women who report to never having an orgasm actually did have one, they just "do not connect with their bodies enough to feel it"? What in the world does that even mean? The women in question are having out-of-body experiences so often, and it just so happens they are frequently having sex at the time, that when their bodies are experiencing an orgasm their spirits are elsewhere? What rot!
Then the commenter references salacious rubbish put out by some quack and his wife who want to make a buck marketing Extended Massive Orgasms (EMOs). You know, that just isn't enough for me. I want Extreme Overpowering Incapacitating Explosive Debilitating Continent-Shaking Earth-Moving Knock-Satellites-Out-Of-Orbit Rend-Time-And-Spacegasms, (EOIEDCSEMKSOOORTAS) and my illustrated book on just how to do that is for all those not prude, uptight, cloistered and issue-ridden enough to reach for their full potential. Because, you know, 75% of women are capable of having EOIEDCSEMKSOOORTAS, they are just not connected with their bodies enough to know it (Bloggernacle Snarker, The Dog's Butt Dragged Across Your Expensive Oriental Rug, 1997, page 1). But, for only $17.95, my illustrated guide will show you how, and the planet will be destroyed shortly thereafter by all the women rending time and space and splitting the continents. So, hurry, before the world ends.
You know what is really bad for women? Selfish husbands. And that was Rosalynde's point, that insufficient frank talk about sex isn't the problem. And you know what, she is right. More dirty talk isn't going to make selfish husbands less selfish, and it isn't going to make them more caring and compassionate husbands capable of being sensitive to the needs of their wives. Dirty talk doesn't address the cultural morass of emotionally stunted men who's view of sex is largely egocentric.
Oh, and Happy St. Valentine's Day.